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MAR-30-06
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: When to start romancing
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To my dear friends who are recently divorced, lonely, trying to fill that huge gap D left in your heart and self esteem:
I’m sorry a/b your divorce it’s never easy to end something that was suppose to last forever ‘til death do us part”. One thing I did is sought professional help. I wanted to exhaust all possibilities before I let go. Sometimes it’s something simple like better communication skills, rekindling the fire...etc. During counseling you can work on putting the romance threads together again, that’s what brought you together in the first place. Not making special time for the relationship, disrespect towards one another kills the romance, but the love factor still there buried by layers of disappointments, resentment, and unyielding to one another. Of course, counseling is not worth a cent when your other half doesn’t have the same goals. It’s like trying to pull a carriage in different directions. The race is futile. No wonder God had in mind oneness, unity in love!
Divorcing is easy, but living after the D is very painful. It will suddenly hit you like an 18th wheeler truck when you think on your children, the fond memories you had together, going through tough times like sleepless nights when your children were sick. That’s something nobody can replace nor provide for you. We hurt our children the most because the once stable secure home (nest) is shattered into microscopic pieces. It makes them very insecure, unable to trust, and sets up a pattern of broken commitments.
My son verbalized at one time “I don’t want to live anymore” thank God I was there to hold him, pray, and cry w/him. You can’t do this (have enough time) if you run to someone else’s arms right away for a quick fix. A Band-Aid just covers what you refuse to feel/see, and halts the growth process through pain. God works through our pain to make us whole. Being single for approx 6 years it has helped me grow closer to God. Take this single opportunity to focus in becoming whole and a wholly instrument of God. You have the full potential of becoming that instrument God has in mind for you-a life that will honor and glorify Him alone. He will provide the rest of your needs in His time (Eccl. 3). Could it be that the right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing?
Yes! You’ll have blue days I had those too. Those days be surrounded by people you love and love you, family, good friends, especially our best friend Jesus. Let God be your strength your source of unconditional love. Remember nothing is too bad for Him to hear (STC). Give it ALL to Him. The book of Psalms provided me with valor and strength (91, 62,63, 51, 46, 21) sing and cry hard and loud (w/ur car windows up :) so your heart will get the point. In time, your feelings/mind will move into reflection, and restoration will start to take place. .
Find a “divorce recovery” support group in your area. It has helped me when I was down and in the gutter. God is the supreme restorer of shattered lives. He yearns to make you whole.
Be well my friend.
A friend in Christ,
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MAR-26-06
20:4:33
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: When to start romancing
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Friendship, I agree definitely has to come first. About not finding interesting people in your congregation, brings some interesting thoughts to my own mind. It seems hard to bridge a gap in just saying hello to some, you never know what they are thinking or how they will perceive just an innocent hello. Also, I find it interesting that people say their are christian, loving, want friends and pen pals, but appears a brick wall to climb. My personal opinion for the most part, that there are still lots who judge a book by the cover, and for me its important in just praying and waiting.
Good luck in your search
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MAR-7-06
1:1:28
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RE: When to start romancing
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The net is no guarantee of meeting the perfect mate. On the other hand, though, how is a single person supposed to get to meet new people when there are very few interesting people available in one's own congregation? I just consider it as advertising. If you want to sell a product(you), you need to let potential buyers(partners)know that you are there.
As with all situations in life, on-line friendships must be entered into cautiously. Some of the disasters that people could have with on-line relationships can't be any worse than some of the other relationships that people can have.
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FEB-27-06
12:42:0
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RE: When to start romancing
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Personally, I agree with shining star members who says that a friendship should come first. For me, it is very important to know the person better before I would think about romance. Romance for me besides a mutual attraction, includes ability to trust, respect and understand another peoson and discover the level of compatability, and communication. I agree that one or even few pictures and self- description are not enough for romantic feelings to start to flow. How can some one look beyond your apperience (good or bad) and see your true character, heart and soul without knowing you first?
Personally, I hope to find good friends on shining star. Time will tell whether some friendship(s) will grow to romance, I'm not in hurry.
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JAN-19-06
2:52:29
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RE: When to start romancing
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You are so right. I think especially women tend to bond at a very early stage - and even if we have not even met the person yet, we may start castle-building with our e-mail contact without being aware that the reality might be completely different. And then both women and men tend to start romancing very quickly. But this also happens too often with relationships which do not start online. It is infatuation, not real love which is often predominant.
I agree that it's important to form a good friendship before kicking into romance - after all, shouldn't our spouse be our best friend?
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